Lysistrata the Rich
~ the privilege motivating money is love ~
TL;DR — Money is an instrument, a means to an ends. And, whether wholly distorted or homely, some form of love is what most men have in mind when they seek money. Yacht? For girls. Drinks? For girls. Fast Cars, haircuts, in the hope of some romantic ideal. So, if women specifically exclude the rich from the marriage market, men will become philanthropists to appeal to women. It’s NOT women’s responsibility to fix a man’s cash-obsession; yet, women have the power to make a deep dent!
Not All Rich Men?
“Men see how women respond to rich guys, and so, men seek to be rich.” Hardly an iron-clad rule — the exceptions are MORE numerous, in fact! Yet, the percentage of some men’s time spent seeking money in the hope of love or lust is significant-enough that it’s worth thinking about. And, because there is a noticeable tilt of preferences in that direction, it becomes a motive for younger men, even before they see any positive or negative consequences of money-seeking.
“I’m looking for stability and security.” An honest and valid goal, which leads women to tilt their preference toward the man with ‘more to offer’. And men, valuing their relationship with those women, hope money will fulfill that offer. For the sake of that money, some of those men use ‘unproductive’ means — trickery, destruction, threats. Those are the men who worry me; they would burn the whole world for cash, because they long for women more than the world they sacrifice.
Your hubby doesn’t need to be one of those sorts of rich pr*cks! Instead, the fact of a general preference for the rich, even good-natured rich people, is what motivated those men to seek money at any cost. If I choose to give my time, attention, my affection and intimacy, my family and future to one person over another, that is my preference. If that preference flows more into the lap of the wealthy, then they are the recipient of my privilege. I have privileged the rich, by spending my life with them.
Refusing the wealthy, categorically, would nudge vast hoards of treasure into philanthropy — more than each participating woman might donate at a 10% rate from their own income. And, those money-grabbing men are destroying the planet just to get that wealth, so categorically excluding the wealthy from the marriage market would also prevent a chunk of our future atrocities to nature. Is all that worth not marrying someone who gives your own children lots of stuff?
