...once that reader, who was excited to imagine 'scanning for the best men' begins to wonder: "What if he asked ME about MY scan?"

The itchy tingle rising! Wait, that would -

"But, if he KNEW what I've done in my life, and in particular what I *allowed* to happen... what I *kept* going-along-with, then, then... he wouldn't respect me!" Yup. That's the proof he *shouldn't*. And you don't get to steal a man you don't earn.