Performative Etiquette is Disgusting
~ you should be shamed publicly until you discard your Pride ~
<see my pride and presumption, here: By My Rule, I am Damned.. ~ my hypocrisy is proof that I am unfit… | by Anthony Repetto | Dec, 2025 | Medium>
I live in California. The Bay Area. There is a rampant delusion among all the recent immigrants to this great State: “The ONLY way to have a sane, just, loving, virtuous society is to ENFORCE POLITENESS.” Frickin’ dumbass.
I guarantee that you could enforce polite words 100% of the time on every bigoted Trumpist — and NONE of them ceased to be bigots. You completely fail at the goal of ending that bigotry. They just hate you more. I can verify, having spoken to my Trumple-stiltskin relatives.
Meanwhile, all those Progressive Values espoused by the local Polite-Police are BETTER-met in a DIFFERENT Country! Berkeley and San Francisco are FAR BEHIND this other Country, in terms of income equality, housing opportunities, support for education, medical care, integrated communities, open and empathic dialogue. That Country has their own version of Trumpettes, too — AND, they still managed to build decades of collaborative, compromise-based Government! How?
They’re rude.
I’m talking about the Netherlands. Go, YouTube “things to know before travelling to the Netherlands” — they are blunt, out-spoken, un-varnished, with no ‘personal space’ bubble in their brains. A Dutch kid is going on a class-sponsored trip? “Goodbye, Mom and Dad — I WON’T miss you, because I’ll be having too much fun!” You visit Rotterdam, and you have heritable weight-problems? That smiling Dutchmen might ask: “Why are you so fat? Do you have a medical issue, because my Auntie had that — I empathize! Or, do you just like to eat? Because I have to show you this restaurant!” You will blush.
Meanwhile, in Berkeley, you must preface each sentence with every trigger-warning and conditional statement to protect your audience from words. That is a thin-skinned Karen joke. It’s performative, seeking to LOOK like the ‘More-Noble Soul.’ I have given 25 years of my life volunteering my time to help the poorest on Earth. I HATE your ‘etiquette makes me superior’ smug attitude. I empathize with those Trumptards who complain when you become Polite-Police. They’re right to shame you for your sick Pride; you bought it with LIP-SERVICE to the name of Virtue, with only the meagerest efforts of real virtue in your lives. It’s disgusting.
Socrates was so rude to the Lawyer at the forum, that Lawyer gathered all his polite friends and VOTED Socrates off-the-island! Polite bullsh*tters will KILL Virtue and Wisdom, if only to maintain the facade that ‘my politeness means I’m superior.’ After Jesus pointed to the polite, gracious, overly-pious, put-together Pharisees and said ‘they absolve themselves of sin with their performative graces’… well, it was those SAME Pharisees who grabbed the Big Guy and demanded Pontus Pilate kill him. Polite bullsh*tters kill to protect their ego, their Pride. Gossip? Tactics? Yup, all of it. Just to claim that mantle of ‘nice-sounding and everyone LIKES me’, Voted-Best-Saint-Award. Fake.
So, if you hope to feel superior by criticizing which word someone used, or how you ‘don’t appreciate their tone’ — I ask: “How many full years of effort have you given in Volunteering? And were you doing the most impactful, lasting work that could be found, or were you just showing-up and doing a little to get credit? Were you honest and forthright about your actual feelings and thoughts with your lovers, consistently? That means you brought it up on your own. Did you admit your faults to those people, so that they could judge you rightly and decide if they want to be in a relationship? Do you lie to your employer for time-off work, or to hide your faults? Fluffed your resume?” Those with little or no virtue seek to elevate themselves in others eyes, by performative acts of etiquette. It’s called Lip-Service. It’s the sin of Pride, to hide their own LACK of real, lived virtue. You are known by your fruits, not by the label on the sticker.
I’ll be glad when we go back to shaming them publicly until they stop their Prideful behavior. We’ll have a more Just, Loving Society as a result.
