Wave Function Collapse IS Non-Locality

For one of the electron’s many paths, it interacts with (“is observed by”) another electron, and this causes a wave function collapse. Yet, how did that one electron, along that one among infinite paths, cause all other ‘smeared’ electrons to disappear? By some power which physicists fear to name, that electron, among all its doppelgangers, was able to cause its siblings to wink out of existence! The actual standard interpretation of this event is: “The equations work, so stop asking questions.” Yet, asking how an imaginary electron can cause other imaginary electrons to cease existence, while becoming real itself, seems to be the fundamental quandary of quantum physics!

So: wave-function collapse happens instantaneously, everywhere, NOT at the speed of light. Therefore, a signal must have been sent/received or shared somehow between all these electron possibilities, despite their distance from each other, and they decide upon which of them will be real, while the others swoop away like ghosts! What gives them the right?! Which of the four fundamental forces mediates that process of de-realitizing and realization? It seems that an entirely different mechanism must be employed, to explain how one thing can begin unreal and form some opinion with its unreal allies, and then dispel them all while becoming truly real itself. All faster than light. How?